Monday Morning Musings:
“I hear America singing, the varied carols I hear,. . .”
Walt Whitman, “I Hear America Singing”
“The human soul can always use a new tradition. Sometimes we require them.”
–Pat Conroy, The Lords of Discipline
“Perhaps this piece of evolution makes no sense—our hunger for everyday sorts of visual pleasure—but I don’t think so, I think we have survived because we love beauty and because we find each other beautiful. I think it may be our strongest quality.”
–Louise Erdrich, Future Home of the Living God
The long holiday weekend is filled with family, food, love, and traditions
my younger daughter and I break bread for stuffing

it’s a calling, a mission, with certain conditions
some fluid, others unchanging
though life does some rearranging
through time and space
and so, I flashback in my mind to my sister and me
watching Thanksgiving parades and tearing pieces from loaves
while our mother is at the stove
producing the magic of holiday meals
(then not appreciated, but now, oh the feels)
Now daughter and I, we break the bread
and watch The Gilmore Girls instead
done the day before,
crossing off this chore,
from the to-do list
and while the old, might be missed
a new holiday tradition it seems is born
taking place while the bread is torn
because sometimes we require them
even when the holiday is filled with so many.
On the big day—what to do
when our designated squirrel un-molder is not here?*
Another one is drafted and a crowd gathers
Offering advice on this and sundry matters
as the cranberry sauce does not want to leave the mold:
more hot water
use a spatula
A compliment:
Not only is she smooth on the dance floor,
she’s smooth on the squirrel, too.
Critique:
She can’t bang it, it’s a hundred-year old thing.
There will be no banging!
Encouragement:
Come on little squirrel we love you.
do it do it do it
Oh my gosh I think it’s happening
The crowd goes wild:
Yaaaaayy!
Another year with the squirrel!
and so, we talk and laugh and eat and drink
discuss scuba diving and money laundering
the possibility of my mom having off-shore accounts
(she doesn’t, but the thought produces much laughter).
We discover how many people it takes to get
a ninety-five-year-old woman up the stairs to the bathroom
wonder if we’re doomed,
but at least three, it seems,
still, we enjoy the holiday and dreams
watched by the spirits of those no longer with us
it is ever thus,
the ghosts of holidays past,
“remember when,” the common refrain
joining in a train
the days from before
to what will come hence
past and future tense
blended together,
a holiday casserole of memories and dreams,
like the dish of leftovers my sister tells me she made
layers laid atop one another,
savory, tart, and just a little sweet
the art of distinct layers that together seep
to form when mixed through
something entirely new.
The next day, we take our older daughter and her wife
on a journey to see visual pleasures
in nature and art, such treasures
a visit with the boating party
scream at monsters

or just scream
Father Screams
Daughter Screams
dine by the water
and dance in the woods
we hear America sing
its varied songs
and glory in Impressionistic delight

Later, we eat leftovers
and watch The Blair Witch Project–
because nothing says family coziness like horror movies–
with food
America singing its varied carols
We do a holiday wine tasting in the barrel room
Scott, assists us, keeping up a lively patter
as he describes the wine and other matters
it is a beautiful fall day
and so, we decide to stay
to sit outside
while we imbibe
watching the soaring hawks
and listening to others talk
looking at the daytime moon
enjoying this weather, thinking winter will be here soon.
We eat Pakistani food
and meet out daughter and son-in-law’s neighbors
who have become friends–the kind of whom you can ask favors,
we discuss how our daughters sound alike,
one tells how she used to sneak about at night,
and we counter with embarrassing childhood stories
(the glory of parental territory)
perhaps the start of a new tradition,
of perhaps it is sufficient
to see and relish the present and the everyday.
Now, it’s four o’clock Monday morning,
we’re awake for the sake
of our daughter and her wife
who have to catch their flight
though it seems the middle of the night,
yet I’m strangely alert
I hear America singing, the varied carols I hear
of parents and children saying goodbye
of politicians trying to tear apart, like stuffing bread,
when they could be constructing something good instead
of children going off to school
hoping they will learn some tools
to navigate this brave new world
that has such people in’t
both good and bad
some sad, hungering for traditions, or new conditions,
for truth and beauty to negate the hate
I see a squirrel scamper from a tree,
and over us, the moon hums her tune
I watch for the sun to rise in autumn beauty–soon

We visited Grounds for Sculpture again and did a Holiday Wine Trails tasting in the barrel room at Sharrott Winery.
*I explained the tradition of the cranberry squirrel in this post.